Big lie number 3 – Climbing trees, building with tools, fixing cars, and doing hard physical things is man stuff. I used to be called a tomboy because I liked to climb trees and play hard. Why is that considered boy-like. Every girl I know likes to play in the trees too. Why, when I come up with a workable plan and tell people, am I called bossy? If a man did the same thing, he would be called assertive or a natural leader. I have been under the assumption because I like to do things like cliff dive, bungee jump, white water rafting, and canopy tours, that I am not in contact with my own femininity? Why are the big balling things called big “balling” at all? Why not big tittied? Why didn’t anyone tell us that loving adventure, having endurance, being a go getter, having a voice, and being willing to fight if that is what it takes, is not masculine at all. From what I have seen in my life, it is very, very feminine. We are not masculine woman, we are women. Women are tough and can be as hard as we are soft. I have never known a woman to need a fainting couch or to get the vapors. In fact I have known more men to be what is called, “bitchy” than women. Most women I know spend more time figuring out how to fix things than taking time to complain about how they are broken. Women are problem solvers extraordinaire. Nothing against men, I love men. However; I am tired of my more bad assed attributes being compared to that of a man. I am woman and I feel enough has been stolen from us, enough has been pushed down to say nothing. I have raised two kids alone and started my own business and went through spiritual training, all being me, a woman. I do comedy as a woman and I climbed most of a mountain barefooted as a woman. We are made of sturdier stock and are not the fairer sex as we have been told. So please stop lying to us and acting as if we are weak and silly and lacking incredible reserves of spiritual, emotional, and physical strength. This is why we are the ones that create children, because we will find a way to care for them, and nothing will stop us when we get something in our sights. We are not bossy, we are capable. We are not bitches, we have shit to do. We are not tomboys, we are of the Earth. Please stop putting male terms on my totally bad ass female qualities!
Now is a time in our history where truths do indeed become self evident. If something you and society believe to be true starts to seem untrue, question it. Question everything. Your truths may be different from mine, as it should be. But decide your truths and let no other person or social norm decide for you. I’m still defining mine and feeling invisible chains falling away as I declare my own sovereignty. Nothing is true until we declare it to be. So except nothing that does not jive with your soul. Purposefully determining your own truths is one of the most powerful and life affirming things one can do. Create and cast your own experience line you would a movie. And feel free to call out lies that may make others feel better or safer but make you feel stifled. Its your script, write it from your truth.